Whether we like it or not, arranged marriages are not going out of fashion. A recent survey done by the prestigious Taj Group of Hotels mentioned, that even today, 74% of our youth prefer arranged marriage. It is no wonder most of the couples are extremely nervous and want to know how to get along with each other after the honeymoon period is over (pun intended!)
For starters, it is important that you get to know your better half. So, set the wedding date at least 6 months after your marriage gets fixed. This means that your courtship period after the marriage getting fixed should be between 3 – 6 months. This helps you to know your would-be spouse better. During this time, you should go out on dates (as many as possible!) and preferably just the two of you..(Let his parents enjoy their quality time together!)
The next thing to do is ask each other as may questions as possible. Now, it is important to note that each of you may be on your best behaviour, so as to impress your better half. While that may not be a bad thing, but it would be better if you are your real self on such occasions. So let’s say if you do not like ‘Karela’, but your better half loves it, you do not have to pretend that you love it too!
Get to know each other’s modernity quotient. This is important especially if you are getting married in a joint family. Joint families typically are conservative in nature and the stress is on group outings and staying within the family. So if you are the independent sort who loves spending more time with your loved one, it would be better if you sound this to your would be hubby. No surprises later!
Smoking, Drinking and Vegetarianism are contentious issues and it is important that you reveal your true views to your better half about these things.. These topics can be so important to your better half that many a time they have sounded the death knell of an otherwise loving marriage.
Keep the communication lines open during the courtship period, discuss as many topics under the sun as possible and remember..No marriage is perfect..You both have to work equally hard to keep it healthy and strong!