Do you realize that we carry our first impressions about people FOREVER. First impressions are so hard to change that a wise person once said, “First impression is the last impression”. How true! When you meet someone for the first time, you are evaluated within a couple of seconds and an impression is formed. You are evaluated on the basis of your appearance, mannerisms and body language. This initial evaluation is done without much information or interaction, but it lasts forever. Perhaps now you see how important first impressions really are.
How To Make A Positive First Impression?
Since first impressions are so important, it is necessary that you deliver a favorable and positive one every time you make a new professional or social acquaintance. This may sound a tough proposition, but it is very simple. There are some basic ground rules that apply to first impressions. Once you learn how to master the technique, you will make great first impressions without even having to try. Here’s how…
Be Confident: The first ground rule of making a lasting and positive impression is that you should appear relaxed and confident. If you appear to be nervous or unsure, the impression will carry on forever. But can you appear confident without feeling so? To an extent, yes. If you lack confidence, you need to learn how to be more confident and self-assured. There is a lot of help available online as well as in books for improving confidence.
Appearance: When meeting a professional contact or an important social one, it is very important to look good. This means you should be well dressed and should appear neat and smart. A hint of shabbiness could spoil everything. Everyone likes to be with people who take good care of themselves.
Body Language: Establish and maintain eye contact. Do not slouch. Your body language should convey warmth and openness. If you cross your arms in front of your chest, this shows that you are insecure and closed to ideas. Take care of little things like this.
Listen: People remember and like a person who pays attention. If you keep talking and do not listen, you will be perceived as a bore. It is much more profitable to let the other person talk while you listen. Not only will you learn a lot about him/her, you will also make a favorable impression by showing that you are interested in what he/she has to say.
Be Positive: If you are the whining complaining kind, this is the first impression you make. So resist the urge to complain about your life. Don’t mention how God has been unfair to you or how the universe is conspiring against you! Be positive and say positive things to create a positive first impression of joy and hope.
Be Yourself: If you wish to create a good impression, be genuine. Any falsehood or put on can be seen by people within seconds. Don’t pretend to be someone that you are not. Be yourself and be happy being yourself.
Smile: Last, but not the least is to remember to smile. A smile can connect two people in a strange way that nobody understands. It conveys empathy, care, interest, attraction, simplicity and so much more. So don’t forget to wear your smile!