After A Break-Up

By First Posted: Nov 7, 2007 Wed 10:30 AM Updated: Dec 7, 2007 Fri 12:26 AM

We live in a world where nothing is sacred anymore. Gone is the era when the Indian woman would be expected to treat her partner as the revered Pati Parmeshwar. No more do women have to take whatever kind of treatment is dished out to them, and do nothing about it. Women have rights today. And one of these rights is the right to break up. It doesnt matter in which stage of relationship you are in. you can fire your boyfriend, husband or even the father of your children. Whether we like it or not, divorces are here to stay.

Even though break ups and divorces are accepted as being OK today, they can never be easy. It just cannot be easy to give up someone who has been a part of your life! There has to be pain and anguish involved in the whole process. Ideally, the best way to avoid pain is to not break-up. But sometimes continuing with a relationship can have a devastating effect on both the parties. In such a situation, it is better to break-up and move on.

Distance Yourself

When trying to get over a broken relationship, it is best to distance yourself for some time. This means no calling him up in the night. Dont try to meet him or exchange communication with him. Maintain your distance till you know you have moved on.

Stop Talking About him

When with your friends, stop pitying yourself or cursing him, or talking about him in any way. To be able to move on successfully, you need to want to move on. This means that you should not want to preserve him in your thoughts and actions anymore. So let go!

Appreciate Yourself

No matter how many faults he found in you, you cant be that bad. And was he exactly faultless himself? No, right? So stop blaming and undermining yourself. He has already done enough of that, at least you shouldnt. If you have been so obsessed with men that you forgot to love yourself, nows the time! Make a list of things you like about yourself and read it often.

Spend Time With Friends And Family

These are the people who will support you through your crisis. But make sure you surround yourself with people who have a positive outlook on life. Steer clear of friends who want to gossip, bitch and generally tear apart your loss.

Learn New Things

Taking up a new hobby or joining a course can be very helpful. It takes your mind off the break-up and you also get to learn something new. You could join a personal development workshop, or even a new language course.

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