So your big date last night was another disaster in a series? You feel like its just not working anymore? Confusion, regret and longing are the emotions often experienced by people in unsuccessful relationships. No matter how hard you try, sometimes it just doesnt work out. Maybe its coz not every relationship is destined to living happily ever after.
So what do you do if you are in such a relationship? Whether its your boyfriend or husband, you need to communicate effectively about your feelings. Try to sort things out. But if youve really tried everything and are back to square one, you have no choice but to call it quits. Its not easy breaking up. Not for you, and certainly not for the partner you are going to dump. Is it possible to break up with someone using sensitivity and without hurting him a lot? Maybe it is
Be Sure About your Decision
If you are breaking up with him because your friend saw him at the disco with another babe, ASK HIM FIRST. It would be very unfair to accuse, judge and punish him for a crime that he may or may not have committed. In general, ask yourself why you wish to break up. If the relationship lacks something, maybe you can work it out together. Think well before you make your decision. If you break up once, you might burn brides and regret later. So be very very sure.
Choose The Right Place
It is best to meet in a public place if you plan to break the bad news. You wouldnt want to be in a private place where he can try to seduce you into taking him back, would you? Meeting and talking over a cup of coffee should be good enough.
Choose The Right Time
Please dont do it on the special days like Birthdays, Anniversaries, Valentines Day, festivals etc. Also spare him the stress of breaking up if hes taking any exams in the next few days. Just be sensitive to his feelings when you decide to break up. Since you are already giving him the pain of rejection, why make it more painful?
Choose The Right Mode
Email is OK for cancelling a date. But if you are talking about breaking up, its gotta be in person dearie! No SMS, no phone calls, no Email and no IM. You owe it to him to stick around and explain in person. Theres nothing crueler than ending a relationship via Email.
Once you have broken up, keep your distance. Forever, if possible! Even if you are too good friends and would like to stay friends, stay away for at least a couple of weeks. This gives both of you time to heal and move on.