Get out of your hoses

By First Posted: Nov 7, 2005 Mon 10:30 AM Updated: Dec 7, 2007 Fri 3:20 AM

While asking the lady next door as what it would have been in your quest for a great romantic life including sizzling sex if you looked exactly the way you wanted to look? How differently would you have behaved if you woke up tomorrow morning and looked in the mirror and you found yourself totally happy with the reflection staring back at you, but when you looked down at your own body you were absolutely thrilled with what your eyes beheld?

Dont rush to answer. Take your time to ponder over it. In fact, take a full twenty-four hours to realize just how differently youd behave if you totally accepted your own appearance and knew, that the men you found attractive found you just as attractive as well.

The great writer, Oscar, playwright, and wit who lived in an era when women of high society whether they were born into it, or found a way to climb their way to the top through marriage and associations with powerful men made not only the most of their appearance, but their personalities as well by learning the amazing allure of killer charm. Sadly, we live in a time where most women spend more time obsessing over our lack of so called perfection, constantly comparing ourselves to rail thin Photo shopped models and actress rather than getting out there and not only enjoying ourselves but using what weve been granted well.

Pick up just about any book on how to be alluring to men, what men are looking for, how to catch a mate, etc. etc. and time and time again (including here) men will be quoted as saying theyre drawn to women who like themselves, who know how to have a good time, who know what they want sexually, who appreciate their bodies
In other words men are drawn to women who accept theyre fabulous.

So whats stopping you?

As I've stated above, and as you know from personal experience, it shouldnt be the competition because even the most stunning women are fierce in their self-criticism. And you know what? Men find our endless self-criticism and obsessing over our looks boring. Even the hottest guys (and I mean fashion model hot) want a woman full of life and passion and interests more than they want physical perfection because the hottest guys know (just as models and actresses know) hardly anyone is perfect, and perfect can get very boring very quickly if theres no personality going on with it.

Just do differently in your pursuit of a hot love life accepting that you are just fine, in fact youre just great, as you are. Youd smile far more often. Youd enjoy just being alive. Since you wouldnt be obsessed with why you couldnt meet the man of your dreams, youd seek him out with an open heart. Spend far less time being judgmental over the lives and appearances of other people and spend more time on your own real passions and interests. Dont go on dates, or sleep with men, out of desperation or the fear that youd never meet anyone else. Dress up more, wear more colors, and dress to show off your assets rather than to camouflage your perceived flaws. Thus making yourself hone your flirtation skills to become a master flirt. Show up mentally on a date and be much easier to connect with because youd be present, rather than wondering if he found you attractive, knowing he found you attractive. Make more fun on dates, and in bed, because youd be actively participating instead of obsessing over the shininess of your nose, or the cellulite on your thighs, accepting compliments graciously because youd accept them as true. Let yourself go for the gusto you wouldnt see certain men out of your league just because you felt they were more attractive than you were, too young, too sophisticated, rich etc.

Sounds like an appealing way to live doesnt it? So why dont you try it for one weekend and challenge yourself to accept that youre already fabulous right here and now. Tell yourself that every time you begin to tear your appearance apart youll stop and accept youre great, youre gorgeous, and youre desirable now. And then go out and behave as if you are and see what happens. If you take the challenge seriously youll find it doesnt matter so much what you do, so long as you do it with the right attitude that youre fabulous. Once you accept that youre not only okay, youre great, youll be pleasantly surprised with the fascinating opportunities that come up to test you and see if you can own your new fabulousness.
Ah yes, thats the rub. It doesnt work to accept youre charm once and then go back to your old ways. Youve got to tend and maintain your charm just the way you would a great new haircut. Are you ready? Your hot new love life is waiting

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