“Men will be men.”

Often women and their complaints are shut up with such simple statements that have for long been accepted as the ultimate truth. But why do we have to accept the nasty, insulting, irritating or stupid things that men do?

Financial independence and the women’s lib have made sure that we raise this question. Today women are in no mood to let their men get away with everything or anything. You’d find it amusing to know that more and more women are using detective services today, to snoop on their straying hubbies! But sometimes there is something missing in a relationship. And the ‘temptation to stray’ increases when people are not satisfied in their relationships. So before you send some detectives snooping behind ‘him’, try to analyze the reason he is cheating on you. If you can spot the reason, you will probably be able to save your marriage.

Here is a list of the 5 most common reasons that make men stray:

1. Sexual Dissatisfaction: The first and foremost reason why your man might stray is lack of sex or dissatisfaction with sex life. Sometimes men are too shy to discuss their desires and fantasies with their wives. So they get theselves a mistress to live out all their fantasies with.

2. Conquest Contest: For some men, it’s just the thrill of making a new sexual conquest that makes them betray their wives. Men love to brag, compare and win the contest whenever there is a discussion of sex - between friends, at work, anywhere!

3. Falling Out Of Love: There are men who will not cheat as long as they are emotionally committed to you. But over the years, they sometimes fall out of love. Such men experience a lack of commitment (and hence the justification for having an affair) once the emotional closeness is lost.

4. Finding A Soul Mate: There are men who feel like they married the wrong woman. This usually happens in arranged marriages where the guy was not too keen on getting married. He looks for everything that is wrong with the relationship and refuses to accept his wife as his soul mate. In such a scenario, if another woman comes along, who shares similar interests, he might be tempted to see this new woman as his ideal partner.

5. You Are A Nag: Yes, women love to nag. Or you could say that most men deserve a lot of nagging. But sometimes, it just gets out of proportions. This is when he starts ‘working late’ or ‘catching up with the guys’. In short, he tries to avoid being with you. This may lead to his wanting to be with someone else.

So how can you make sure that you do not lose your man because of these reasons?

As far as sexual life is concerned, try to be more supportive. So if you wish to keep him happy and satisfied, encourage him to communicate openly. While you do not have to do anything that makes you uncomfortable, having an open mind while you listen to his fantasies can go a long way in cementing your relationship. As a matter of fact, you may have some fantasies of your own. Communicate, communicate, communicate!!!

But sex alone is not going to save your marriage. So remember to put in a lot of love and romance into your life as a couple. Surprise him with gifts, cards and other tokens of love. Ask him out on a date just like you used to before you got married. Remember that you are a couple and you deserve to have the romance. Forget about the kids and the in-laws for at least four hours every week.

Stop being a nag all the time. At least take some time out from nagging him. Would you like someone breathing down your neck all the time? Yes, we are better at everything. Just accept this as a fact and stop expecting him to do everything as well as you do!