Teenage Physical Relations

One of my students whois in class XII is PREGNANT!

Today morning Priti came to me (I'm the school Psychological Counselor), and disclosed the news. She wanted to find out ways of aborting without anyone finding out. Poor girl has not been able to share this with her parents due to guilt and fear. When I asked her why she got involved in a physical relationship at such a young age, she started sobbing. She just didn't want to be considered dumb and desi by her friends.

Most youngsters today see physical relationships as normal. Well, there's nothing abnormal about them, as long as you are sure that is what you want. If you feel pressurised or coerced into such a relationhip, it is wrong. Also, one needs to be old enough. Just because you have attained puberty, you cannot assume that you are old enough for sex. Two of th most common reasons that most girls cite for getting involved physically are...

Peer Pressure

The feeling that you are the only virgin in your class can be quite disturbing. Watching your friend date her boyfriend, makes you wanna have a boyfriend too. Similarly, hearing about other people's sexual escapades does create a kind of pressure. This is akin to "Keeping up with the Jones'."

Boyfriend Pressure

"If you love me then you have to prove it..." Is your boyfriend constantly asking for proof? You need to get rid of the jerk. Most guys take advantage of the sensitive and emotional nature of girls. Believe me, this is just a trick to get you in the sack. If two people are in love, they do not need any proof. And don't let him brainwash you that "sex is the culmination of love". If he truly loves you, he should wait till you feel that you are ready physically and emotionally.

Why You Should Wait For A Few Years

• If you are sexually involved while you are still in school, will you be able to focus on studies?
• Teenage pregnancies are increasing everyday. What good does it serve to first conceive a baby and then kill it coz you are not ready?
• Sexually transmitted diseases are very common in sexually active teenagers. Lack of knowledge and inhibtions sometimes make things rather serious!
• Are you sure that your boyfriend is not carrying AIDS or any other STDs?
• Yes, condoms do solve problem of STD and unwanted pregnancy, but they are not 100% effective. Did you know that?
• Is there a guarantee that the guy you love, will actually remain the love of your life forever? Aren't you too young to talk of forever?
• Does your boyfriend truly deserve to be "the one"?

The list will grow as long as we may want it to. But believe me, teenage sex is not worth it. So many girls come to me with similar issues. All of them repent getting involved physically. If you love each other, please wait for a few years. Sex is not everything. It will happen in due course of time. Don't feel as if it is the end of the world yaar!