divorce

Its easier to get into a relationship than to get out of one. Most people mull over the issue for a long time before deciding to break up. You love someone, spend a lot of time together, and then want to quit. Can’t be easy on your partner, right?

But you’ve got to do things even though they may not always be easy. Nevertheless breaking up at the slightest reason or fight is not good idea either. So how do you know if it’s time to break up? There are some sure signs and some not so sure. Read on…

So you think your husband is seeing someone else and you can do nothing about it? Don't worry, you are not alone. Most women have suspected their husbands of cheating at some point in their lives. Cheating doesn't have to be physical. Your husband may be cheating physically, emotionally or virtually. Most men today start with virtual sex with complete strangers, happily oblivious to the fact that cheating is cheating is cheating: real life or cyber world.

Wasn’t that Love ke liye saala kuch bhi karega?

Ummmmm, gone are the days when people would go to any lengths for love. Today it’s the money that drives the world. Why else would people do the weirdest things for a little publicity? Every weekend we watch our Bollywood stars do guest appearances on popular TV shows to promote their movies. All that is fine, I suppose. But some of our celebs go a little too far.

Meera married her long-time boyfriend Khushwant last year. Everyone, including Meera and Khush, considers this a match made in heaven. Theirs is your typical “…lived happily ever after” kinda story. The only hitch is that Meera is not really happy. After a couple of months into the marriage, it dawned on Meera that love was not enough to make a marriage work. The differences between her old and new families seemed petty before marriage. But now the same differences often become a bone of contention between Meera and Khush.

Recently my friend Anamika separated from her husband Piyush. Anamika had met Piyush three years ago. After an affair that lasted for over a year, they got married. And my poor friend got the shock of her life when Piyush told her that he wanted a divorce. Barely eighteen months into the marriage, Piyush had fallen in love with another woman!!! The sad part was that Anamika never suspected it. Her husband was having an affair right under her nose, and she didn’t realize it.

Love and romance all sounds very good, but a marriage is much more than that. The thrill and the passion of romance finds no takers after the dullness and monotony of marriage sets in. often people find out after marriage that they are not really in love. The bitter truth that they mistook infatuation/lust for love dawns upon most people a little too late. This is when verbal sparring leads to constant bickering and violent fights. Endless screaming sessions and name calling matches make matters worse.

Prachi, my sister had these words hurled at her by her boyfriend of four years. Prachi was devastated. She had been expecting him to ask her to marry him. This was such a shock for her. Armaan told her "Prachi, I don't feel like I used to, with you anymore. I don't love you anymore. I have fallen out of love with you." Since then, it's been hell on earth for Prachi. She cannot seem to do anything. She cannot see any reason to live anymore. She has considered many options to end the torment: dating lots of guys, getting even, worst of all, suicide.

Lovisha married Sanjoy four years back. It was a love marriage and people considered it a match made in heaven. But four years down the line, Lovisha feels like the charm is gone. She feels like there’s no fire in the relationship any more. She often wonders if Sanjoy has fallen out of love with her. The mundane everyday routine seems to be killing the romantic spark they once shared.

If a woman steals your husband, the best revenge is to let her keep him, for she deserves to be with the scumbag that your cheating husband is. But if it is possible to seal your marriage in such a way that cheating is the last thing on his mind, why not?

“Men will be men.”

Often women and their complaints are shut up with such simple statements that have for long been accepted as the ultimate truth. But why do we have to accept the nasty, insulting, irritating or stupid things that men do?