My hubbys cousin is getting divorced and she is just five years into marriage. Elsewhere, I have read and heard that the divorce rates in India, especially in the metros have leapfrogged. Delhi happens to have the highest divorce rates in India, leaving behind the other metros like Mumbai and Bangalore. So what is happening, Girls? That notion we all used to cherish of the Knight in shining armor sweeping us off our feet and then the happily living ever after may not be so true after all.
So what is it that makes love last? How do marriages end up in such a mess? Why does the lovingly said I Do end up as I Dont? Why are we not able to keep each other happy and remember it is just two people who have to embrace each others strengths as well as weaknesses? Why does love have to end at all? So many Whys and I do not have an answer.
I was watching a chat show on a popular lifestyle channel, and have been able to jot down some points here that can probably make love last longer. See if it works for you too.
Remember nobody is perfect. Each of us has blemishes. The husband you married is human too. He will develop a paunch at some time (if he does not have one already). If he smokes and drinks, convince him to stop or at least reduce it. Once a week you can also join in with a cocktail glass in your hand.
You crib that he has eyes only for the news and cricket. Well you know what! T20 is not such a bad thing after all. Though this should be rationed for the benefit of both of you. Tell him that for every match that you watch with him, he will have to spend double that much of time with you during the weekend. No News, No sports! Just You and Him. Get him to agree on this one!
A man likes to be praised and that too in public. So even if he is shy and an introvert, you should say that he is terrific as a human being and make it a point that you are saying this in front of a group and he is around too. Praise all that you really appreciate in him. Dont just perform lip service and say things you never meant.
Appearances matter! Thats a hard fact, babes. So take some time out to go to the Gym or join a fitness routine that helps you slim and tone down. Make it a point to get that facial done once a fortnight and those arms and legs waxed.
True love endures because the couple is able to see the one thing as the same. An example is if he says that a particular model/actress is prettier than anyone he has ever seen, just agree. I know it sounds silly, but you are doing this for the love that you share.
When people are in love they see everything with rose tinted eye glasses. Your ignorance about worldly affairs seems like innocence to him. And his shortcomings also appear sweet to you. But after marriage, and the hum drum of daily existence, all this changes. You turn into an ignorant fool overnight, and he turns into a silly and pompous guy. This is where some effort on the part of both of you is required. Take time out for each other. Take time out from your routine life. Pamper each other. Cherish each other. After all, you have but one lifetime
