Some men just dont know how to please their partners in bed.
Rude as it may sound, this is the honest truth that most of us women face on a daily basis. But when it comes to acknowledging this fact, ironically, most women back out as many suffer from the classic guilt of being less desirable. To an extent that we start believing in this theory and sex, good sex that is, becomes a distant dream.
Time you grow up, really.
Cause the matter of fact is that even though men seem to play the I-Know it well macho character well, deep down they still longer to be guided and told, subtly. Mind you the key to success is subtly. And if you agree to that. The only question that left to be answered is exactly how does one get her lover to do what she really want?
Well, heres a tutorial:
First and foremost acknowledge that teaching your man to know and understand your needs is your RESPONSIBILITY. The ball is in your court, not his. Once thats understoodnext fort start taking the lead on the road to better lovemaking and intimacy.
Start by exploring your own body. Try to know what arouses you, your own G-spots and of course what puts you helpless. It could be a nudge on the neck, a bite behind the ear or fingers running up and down your curves.
The logic is simple: you have to know your body first to help him do better.
Next, talk out openly about your desires and what you would like to do together. The game plan to tell him where he lacks to satisfy you but please leave criticism out . Make him feel good about himself. Acknowledge how wonderful he is. It could be anythinghis smile, the body, his touch (this is a winner), or his love for you. Dont know how to broach the topic then just begin by saying how you admire his dreams, his family, the last vacation and veer to more important issues as you go. Warning, avoid patronizing as the whole idea of the conversation is to make him feel approved and put his sense of insecurity to slumber. Once thats done he is more likely to play party to your suggestions, both on and off bed.
Got him in the listening mode, now comes the trickiest part : how to ask him what you really want, sweetly that is. So make it attractive. Adorn a soft tone and watch out for the choice of words. For instance, you want to go out with him often. Say something like, remember the time we had when we used to go out regularly. God, I miss being with you like that now, can be make it tonight. The likelihood is that even though he may not take you out immediately, he would work a surprise plan for you. A similar thing works in bed too.
Last not the least, take the initiative and ask him to lead. Like hand feed him delicious morsels of grapes and strawberries. Turn a surprise hug into a cuddle and a cuddle into a long sensuous neck and back massage. Or on an off day present him a CD of his favourite love songs and ask for a tango.
It may not get him the message right away, but a few tricks like these and you would be surprised to get more in return than you bargained for.
