Monisha met this really cute guy at work last month. Samir was good looking, sincere and smart. No wonder Monisha wanted to ask him out. But how could she ask him out? A woman asking a man out!!! She would rather wait for him to ask her out on a date. Surely he looked at her appreciatively many times. He did seem interested enough. While Monisha waited, her colleague Richa asked Samir out for a movie. And Monisha kept waiting.

If you also have any hang ups about asking a guy out, let this be a lesson for you. We are living in the twenty first century gals!!! We are doing everything that men do, we are as smart and efficient (usually more) as they. So why is it always a mans prerogative to ask a woman out? Here are a few tips to prepare you for your first asking out performance:

Never use any cheesy / witty pick up lines: Even men dont use them anymore. At least the decent ones dont. Pick up lines are considered crass and in bad taste. Certainly not something a Memsaab should be using. So just keep it simple and be upfront about the whole thing.

Dont ask just tell: People mostly tend to ask someone out for a date by saying this - "would you like to go out for dinner with me? Now when you say that you leave the decision on the person you asked which makes them feel superior to you as you left the final verdict upon them. You should say "Lets go out for dinner on Saturday and Ill pick you up at 9". Do not give the other person a chance to decide and be spontaneous. More and more men today like a woman who knows her mind and is assertive.

Dont act desperate: Dont ever let the guy know that you are just dying to go out with him. Even if you are you should pretend that you are not. No one likes to go out with a desperate person. Every one likes a person with a positive attitude. Learn to believe in yourself and your potential. Being desperate gives a very strong indication to the person you are asking out that you have been rejected in the past and that will make him wonder why.

Your posture shows it even before you talk: Body language is a strong indicator of where your level of confidence stands. Dont get all nervous and shaky. Stand tall and hold your head high. You should not be flustered or confused. You must act very comfortable when asking someone out.

Dont make it a big deal: Most people consider it very important and do tons of preparation as if they are going for an examination. Asking someone out for a date is not rocket science therefore does not require any preparation whatsoever. Preparing a speech will make you more nervous and edgy. And you might just forget it all and find yourself fumbling for words. Is that the impression you want to give? You should be very comfortable and confident with yourself when asking someone out.