Once I asked Chitralekha, who is 40 years old and a lecturer in a Delhi college that why was she not married till date, she replied back that it was a personal question and she doesnt want to reply. Today, there are many Chitralekhas in big cities who are educated and independent. They seek freedom in their lives. They have got status, they work hard and they earn good. Inspite of that they remain single. Not that I am unaware of the pains of a single living. Still, I cant remain committed to any one man all my life. I dont want to lose my independence. Please dont misunderstand, but this freedom is what I want, says Bindya, a well placed MBA.
The trend is growing very fast. But the single state is neither common nor normal. Some women are too proud to compromise with the male ego. They are ambitious and have got their individual identity. They would prefer living alone than losing their identity. Some women are engrossed in various activities like gardening or their job. They shred the idea of sharing their house with someone else or even listening to somebody giving ideas on their design of drawing room or several other trivial issues. These kind of women usually adopt some child.
But these are exceptions! There are instances of rich and successful ladies being frustrated after they pass the marriageable age. They become rude and short tempered. And they begin to ponder that if I had children; I would have been in a stronger emotional state of mind and even stable.
Actually women who tend to remain single imagine many things. They imagine themselves divorced and abandoned, they imagine the pregnancy and the pain of labour, they even think that they will be ill-treated by their in-laws and the idea of leaving their parents and going tend to shudder them and hence they are afraid of tying the knot.
Actually now- days parents spend very little time with their children. It leads to the young women becoming introverts and they begin to believe that their own privacy is more important than the best of relationships. So parents should talk to their teenager children specially and communicate with them and keep them engaged in creative work
In some women there is also a tendency of glorifying their single state. They often start smoking or drinking which in turn leads to wrong alliances. When these are over their sense of loneliness returns with a vengeance. They start feeling jealous. By the time they are 50 , they feel that they have been rejected and that no one looks at them in a normal way. They may then of course choose not to care a bit. But thats deception. The fact is that they know the world have been much more better if they had been married.
