No matter how much you fight with your boyfriend, at the end of the day you want to see him happy!

Specially because there are good chances that his depressed voice will shade your own mood! And you don’t want him to keep repeating on your next date!

So, if not for him, for yourself, you need to cheer him up!

The problem is that men feel they can handle everything themselves (no point complaining, God’s made them that way). Which means the last thing they’ll do is tell you what is wrong.

You need to prompt him! Rather than asking questions, make statements like “looks like you had a bad day.” As the day’s terrible events flood his minds, words will automatically gush up in his mouth, without you asking him. (And he’ll feel that he is not asking for a solution, just sharing his problem.)

Men also have a small problem with emotional talks: they don’t understand them! So, words like “it’s not always been that bad”, “bad times come and go” or “have patience, it will be ok” will sound Greek to him!

You need to be clear, straight and polite in your talks. Ask them ‘if’ you can help (of course you can! But they still need to decide). Also ask him if he has thought of a way out of this problem.

Now that you have asked, don’t get wild on silly solutions. That’s the way they perceive the world to be. So, listen to them patiently and offer help genuinely. Maybe by simply being supportive of his decision, you can bring him back his confidence and the smile on his face. He needs to realise that you are there with him, always, without verbally saying so.

Maybe he needs some space. Give it to him. Sometimes men have tussles with the left and right hemisphere of their brains! Let him take his time to solve it. At this time, he may get mad at you for getting in his personal bubble. If he sends you such signs, back off.

Food and a sweet smile. Two things he’ll always love to have! Cook him his favourite dish and serve your sweetest smile along with the desert. You will be greatly helping him to relax and solve his problems with a cool and logical mind!