Shruti’s parents want her to get married. Same goes for her neighbors, relatives, friends and everyone else she knows. They are all breathing down her back every moment with that questioning look in their eyes. It’s not like Shruti herself doesn’t want to get married. But somehow it’s just not happening.

None of Shruti’s relationships have progressed far enough to consider the possibility of marriage. Her folks have tried to fix her up with guys a couple of times. But even the ‘arranged marriage’ kind of guys reject her for one reason of another. Shruti finds her confidence shaking. Is something wrong with her? Why does nobody want to marry her? She’s smart, she’s intelligent and she’s successful. Then why?

Just like we have stereotypical images in our heads of ‘husband material’ guys, men also have ideas on what comprises ‘wife material’. Wanna learn more? Read on to find out if you are “marriage material”.

Can You Keep Your Emotions In Check?

Nobody wants to be saddled with a weepy faced, whining & complaining woman. So, are you an emotional volcano? Or do you know how to deal with your own feelings and emotions? How volatile are your emotions, decides how many people want to be by your side.

How Do You Spend Your Money?

Men want to be with someone who knows how to strike a balance in finances. Neither do they appreciate thrifty women who cringe every time they tip (very miserly too) someone. Nor do men find any wisdom in women who blow up thousands of rupees on a dress they will probably wear two or three times at best! They like women who can take mature and balanced financial decisions.

Bedroom Stuff

Are you a prude? Do you always behave like a frightened little virgin? Or are you a woman with natural interest in sex? Guys do think about this stuff. They try to imagine what sex life with you will be like. That’s coz in India pre-marital sex is frowned upon. So all they can do is imagine! Men want women who are ready to experiment under the sheets.

Are You Fun?

Do you know how to let go, every once in a while? Or are you a spoilsport every time he wants to do something crazy? Are you open to enjoying a drink with him? Or do you force him to lie to you because of your strict rules? Do you do fun things together?

Communication Is The Key

Men are not very communicative themselves. But it is better if you communicate well you goals and objectives in the relationship. Research says that women who communicate their need for marriage, early on in a relationship, are more likely to get married. So if marriage is what you want, let him know NOW.

Are You Dominating? Are You A Doormat?

Metro-sexual men are mature enough to realize that marriage is not a game with winners and losers. So they are neither looking for a doormat, nor do they want a dominating wife. They want someone who can be an equal. Are you that person?

Do You Trust Him?

While it is true that men are more likely to stray than women, still nobody wants to be under a microscope all the time. Do you create a scene if you see him talking to a woman? Or do you trust him enough to accept his female friends as a fact?

Besides these qualities, there are others like maturity, a sense of humor, friendliness, intelligence etc that men do look for. And of course, your in-laws expect you to know how to cook, clean and do other home stuff. But you can learn all that in time. So if you think you fall short of the expectations outlined in this article, get to work on them now. If you are a girl wanting to know if he’s the one for you, do read our next in the series “Is he marriage material?”