Are you suffering from the J syndrome? Do you go green when you hear your boyfriend mentioning his ex-girlfriend in his conversation; see him with his female-‘just’ friends or when he compliments his good looking colleague?

There is nothing wrong in getting jealous as long as it is under control! He probably wants you to feel a little J (that’s how men feel your love for them!). But if it goes out of control it can cause serious havoc in your lovely love life!

So, how do you over come jealousy?

It’s not easy to get rid of this disease… but try, try and you’ll succeed!

Fight the cause, not the symptoms

You may think that his talking about his ex or with another girl is the cause of your jealousy. But its not! These are only the symptoms.

Find out the real cause. It may be insecurity or a feeling of loneliness. These are like wild grass. They keep popping up till you irradiate them from their roots! Talk to him or a close friend of yours and share your feelings. Do things that make you feel good about yourself and the situation. You may even resort to listing your positives over the negatives of the person you are jealous of, as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone.

Feel good
Protection is better than cure. Feeling good about oneself is one very effective protection against the J syndrome! Build your self-esteem by concentrating on all those things that make you unique. Think of all those people who treasure you so much. Spoil yourself and make it special for yourself! With such nice feelings inside you, there’ll be no space left for jealousy or its cousins… let others catch the deadly disease!