We know what youre thinking. Not another extramarital affair story. Youre up to your ears with this stuff, arent you? On television, in the papers, in your friends circle. Its suddenly all around you. Well, welcome to the real world.
5 ways to know hes cheating on you
When he gets unusually busy after normal work hours and on weekends, claiming a new and ofcourse, very important project. Important indeed! Right now, he can only see the high returns and not the high risk.
When he leaves the room to answer calls on his mobile phone and shies away from reading his SMS messages out to you. Watch out for the sudden caution he adopts where leaving his phone around unguarded is concerned!
When he avoids eye contact, claims fatigue and tries to stay out of your way. A man who is too tired to have sex, babe, be sure is getting it somewhere else!
When you ask him whats wrong and he says,Its not you; its me. Isnt it always?
When you get that horrible feeling at the bottom of your stomach that tells you things are not all right. Nothing works better than a womans sixth sense!
Well, its time to take a pair of scissors and cut a big hole in his favourite Calvin Klein briefs just as a sign of whats to come!
Get Even
In India, there are two ways a woman deals with a situation when faced with infidelity- conventionally and unconventionally.
Conventional Method
To be thetake me for granted woman who makes you wish is my command her relationship mantra.
To be the jealous/over possessive watchdog type who snarls the minute her security zone is threatened.
To threaten and then attack the other woman.
To take the I will bear it all socially and silently for the sake of my children, parents and family honour approach.
Take the Unconventional Path
Have an affair: Well, if you dont want to go all the way, you could probably make a new male friend. Women can have far more meaningful relationships with men as friends and soulmates and for them, it doesnt have to be physical to be fulfilling.
Take help from your children: Children often become pillars of strength for their mothers and rarely share the same emotion for a father who has philandered. So while protecting your childrens emotions when they are young adults. It may help them understand why their parents have a strained relationship. It may help them to not repeat protecting your children all your life while their father failed to check his step when he could have. This is a very critical aspect, as women, despite being victims, also carry the extra burden of keeping the truth, not just from parents and children to spare them pain, but also from society to save face. This situation is exactly what men take advantage of. They know that no matter what, the wife will either forgive in time or not let anyone know, and keep the peace at home for the sake of the children. But you must bear in mind that the other woman is not the villain- your husband is- hes the one who broke the sanctity of the family tie.
Be financially independent: The nest called home that you helped create is as much yours as it is his. The best gift that mothers can give their daughters is an independent roof over their heads, so they dont have to suffer humiliating circumstances to keep them in unhappy relationships, says, Snigdha Patel, 58. Lack of a home to go to compels women to suffer in silence, unlike in the West, where laws give women equal, if not more, rights to property in the event of a divorce.
