So many of us meet our mates when we least expect it - in the elevator, waiting in line for coffee, or killing time on public transportation. With time of the essence, how can you get noticed, get a connection, and get a phone call later?
Notice Me Move #1: Just Relax!
You-re a palm-sweating, cotton-mouthed, fast-talking and eager-to-impress nervous wreck. But before you launch off into some mentally rehearsed witty banter, take a deep breath and try to be natural. Don-t assume that with that one sparkling sentence, you-ll stumble across the magic words to convince a perfect stranger to fall in love with you, or, at the very least, follow you home for a night of hot nookie. Instead of looking at this one line as being a make-or-break move, remember it for what it really is - a way to kick off a casual chat.
Notice Me Move #2: But Take It Seriously.
It-s good that you recognize that you-re just socializing, not negotiating the next Cuban missile crisis. But there is some gravity to this situation. Enough to require you to be clean, reasonably dressed and well-mannered. We-re not suggesting formal wear just to pick up the morning paper, but you don-t want to give that cutie in line ahead of you the impression that you can-t be bothered to take care of yourself.
Notice Me Move #3: Have Fun.
You-re probably better looking with a smile on your face, but in addition to that, you-re also going to be more charismatic. People are naturally drawn to someone they perceive as fun, someone who-s active in their surroundings. Hiding in the back of the bar, or lingering by the buffet table all night won-t get you anywhere - get involved!
Notice Me Move #4: Say Something.
While you-re hoping to impress with your stories of heroism and daring deeds, your would-be date-s eyes are glazing over. Show an interest in getting to know them, and save your stories for your first date. Get your crush talking by asking an open-ended question - and not the -You want some fries with that shake?- variety. Why do you think "Come here often?" gets used so often? It works.
Notice Me Move #5: Be Mysterious
Keep your interest subtle enough that he or she wonders where it-s heading. It-s that whole idea of always leave -em wanting more. Before he or she starts scanning the room in indifference, excuse yourself to visit the bathroom, regroup with your friends or even flirt with a rival. Be a little bit of a challenge.
Notice Me Move #6: Close the Deal!
Obviously, just making a superficial connection isn-t enough - you want to see this person again, right? You-d be surprised by how many guys (and girls) will chat up a potential honey all night only to leave without making plans to reconnect. Try a simple line like "I-d like to get to know you better, could I call you sometime?" It doesn-t hurt if you can include something you talked about earlier, say, mentioning you-d like to invite him or her to a concert by a band you discussed.
