Like most other young DILs, I also hate my MIL with a vengeance. At times I see sparks of goodness in her, but all that goodness is directed at others. For me, she's a complete @#$*$! Here's 5 Reasons why I hate her the most...
I Am Not Good Enough: The first reason is that for some reason she thinks that I am not good enough for her son. It doesn't matter that her son is not really that macho, or hot, or clever, or witty!!! He's a regular guy and no Greek God, Saasu Ma. It's high time someone told her that. But who'd want to burst her bubble? So, I'm not good enough for her perfect son. I am not good looking enough, hard working enough, nice enough, loving enough...in short I am NOTHING enough for her son.
Mom's Food Is The Best: Yes, everybody loves food cooked by mom. I am fine with that, thank you very much! But does it really have to be rubbed in? Every time she cooks for him, she has to ask him if I can cook any of his fav dishes. Of course I can, mom. But she won't be satisfied till she can force a comparitive analysis and win the first place. Are we in a war or something?
Raising Kids Is Not An Easy Job: I agree. But I am not constantly asking you for advice, so why bother? I don't care if you taught your children to do their dishes at age 5 or 6 or 10. It is of no consequence to me mommy dear. My children will learn things when I think they are ready. Maybe you were a better mom than I am, but I am so new to the job and have years of learning ahead of me. Let me take the decisions for my kids without telling me that I am not a good mother. Give me some credit?
My Parents Are No Good: Just like me, the rest of my family is dumb, boring and non-classy. No matter how mundane and silly MIL herself is, she likes to think that she's the queen and my folks are the servants. She conveniently overlooks the fact that my folks are much better educated and more civilzed than anyone in her family! Point taken, I hope, MOM.
Financial Advisor: We can do nothing without taking her counsel. We cannot decide on our own about insurance policies. We are too dumb to chalk out our own investment deicisons. We won't even buy a huse without her approval. She will decide which school is good for the kids. She will decide which bank is good for housing loans. In short, we don't need a financial planner coz we have one at home. The only hitch is that she won't stop at advising. She will make sure that her advice is taken and followed to the T.
Anybody who reads all of this post would think that my husband is a wimp. A complete mama's boy. And who am I to deny that?
Yes, he's the strong guy when we are on our own. But as soon as his mom steps into the picture, he's such a weakling that I occilate between pitying him and being mad at him. Why can't he take a stand? Why can't he tell her that even though we love her, we've got to take our own decisions. Sure she can give her opinion on things, but does it have to be always right? Why can't she just let him grow up? When will we be able to live our life our way?
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